A Ridiculously Optimistic Resolution for the Pageant Dream of “World Peace”

28 Jan
Peace, Kinley Baker, Romance Author

“Pardon My Nails” by Kinley Baker

Pageant Queens get a bad rap for wanting world peace, but I’ve always secretly wished for the same thing. (And my street cred crumbles) Hear me out…

Seeing questions that ask what we hope for in 2013 on Twitter makes me restless. I want to write “Peace. Safety. Love. For everyone.”

But then I’ll be pegged as the ridiculously optimistic fool.

I ache seeing these news articles where innocent lives are taken and people are victimized in cultures that sanction the abuse.

I want to stomp and shout and SCREAM… at the top of my LUNGS. I want to YELL until I lose my voice that… IT’S NOT FAIR.

That these people deserve peace and safety and love.

Everyone does.

I can’t stand to see these stories because my heart aches for these strangers.

Everyone deserves to have their husband teach them to make breakfast while listening to John Mayer on a Saturday morning while the dog stares on from the living room, wondering what the heck the wife is doing in the kitchen. This just happened to me, and I can’t even express how safe and loved and treasured I felt in those keen, simple moments.

The world deserves peace.

But I don’t have the power to dispense it.

And I feel SO FRUSTRATED. There is nothing I can do to change or save or help the world. I am one voice in a sea of billions.

Who do I think I am? I am only one.

Well, the people who helped the world and went down in history were also one voice. One person. One challenger. One naïve, hopelessly optimistic individual who I have to believe… believed in world peace.

I hope one day we live in a world that’s equal. An impossible dream. A hopeless affliction of core deep optimism.

I want to change the freaking world. I want to make it fair. Do you hear me world?! Do you?!

I’m tired of your wrath.

I’m tired… Of aching and hurting. But more so… exhausted for the people who actually live these horrible events.

We are emotional individuals. We can sometimes inflict more harm on ourselves than others can.

There are people who are hurting SO MUCH. I want to take away the pain. I want to gather it close until it gains so much pressure that it explodes into tiny pieces and finally disappears.

I have no weapons. I have no super powers. I only have words and a voice, and a very small reach. It’s not enough.

Is it enough?

It doesn’t feel like enough.

These are just words. No action.

Words mean nothing. They help no one.

Maybe that’s not true. Words give power to voices. A voice might be the most powerful human instrument of all.


Be thoughtful. Be compassionate. Care.

My hope for 2013 is that the world won’t be so f-ed up. My name is Kinley Baker and if you asked me what I’d hope for, I’ll freaking say… WORLD PEACE.

It’s not silly. It’s not frivolous. It might be ridiculously optimistic.

But it’s not wrong… to hope for a world that’s equal. A world that’s fair. A world that’s safe.

If we stop believing in those things, we’re lost. We have voices that are meant to be used.

This frustration bleeds through my veins. Itches under my skin. Ignites the fiery passion of all that is BEING PISSED OFF.

Have you ever felt that anger? That injustice? That absolute hopelessness?

When you just want to sink down on the floor like you haven’t since you were four and throwing a tantrum. All energy melted from your bones and defeat triumphing. You concede…

World, you’ve won. I can’t take anymore…

Death. Loss. Suffering. Abuse. Assault. Innocence taken.

I can’t take… anymore.

Please. My parents always taught me to be polite. Please, World.

I know there would be no good without evil. But give good a little fire power, will ya? Show us we’re not ridiculous, optimistic, naive, guileless, innocent fools for believing in world peace.

I’m not tall enough to be a pageant queen, and you saw my lacking nails in the above picture (Sorry about that), but I absolutely refuse from this day forward to apologize for wanting world peace.

I challenge you not to apologize. That when people ask: “What’s the one thing the world needs more than anything else?”

Your answer is: Peace. *cue pageant wave*

I want world peace AND I’m a wannabe badass. Deal with the contradictions.

The world isn’t good or bad. But we have a voice the world doesn’t. Let’s use it to spread some good. Don’t we all need it?

You do… I know you do… Because you read to this point of this post.

Now, what are we going to do about it? Well, I’m going to start this blog. This is my first post and heavier than I envisioned starting with, but there you go. I thought it was appropriate (not that appropriateness is my strong suit).

Tune in Wednesday for a confession so ridiculous you will probably laugh or maybe even relate.

Until then, Kristen Lamb showed me an amazing story I want to share with you all. One that might help you when you’re feeling frustrated.

The Starfish Story

I know it’s asking a lot for you to read more since this post is much longer than I plan going forward, but The Starfish Story really hit close to home.

All we can do is throw one starfish at a time. I vow to do the same to the best of my ability.

And welcome! I am ridiculously thrilled to meet your acquaintance.

-Kinley Baker (@kinleybaker)


48 Responses to “A Ridiculously Optimistic Resolution for the Pageant Dream of “World Peace””

  1. KM Huber January 28, 2013 at 2:12 pm #

    My kind of post, Kinley, and congratulations, your blog looks wonderful. Great job all around!

    • kinleybaker January 28, 2013 at 2:56 pm #

      Thank you, KM! I’m glad you like it. 🙂

  2. Sarah Mäkelä (@sarahmakela) January 28, 2013 at 2:54 pm #

    Wow! Awesome blog post, and I love your new blog! It’s really pretty. 🙂

    • kinleybaker January 28, 2013 at 3:11 pm #

      Thank you, Sarah! I appreciate you stopping by. I have found WordPress to be great so far.

  3. Lecia Cornwall January 28, 2013 at 3:01 pm #

    Wonderful post—I heartily agree! May 2013 be the year the world changes for the better.

    • kinleybaker January 28, 2013 at 3:15 pm #

      Hi Lecia! So happy to see I’m not the only one who’s wishing for the best. I hope things are going well for you!

  4. darcyflynn January 28, 2013 at 3:15 pm #

    I hear you, loud and clear! You have a great voice!
    Looking forward to Wednesday’a post, as well!

    • kinleybaker January 28, 2013 at 3:21 pm #

      Thank you, Darcy! Wednesday’s post will either be funny or embarrassing or both. Lol. Either way, I’m going for it.

  5. alicamckennajohnson January 28, 2013 at 3:52 pm #

    Great looking blog, and a wonderful post- thanks for the inspiration to try and work for peace.

    • kinleybaker January 28, 2013 at 5:04 pm #

      Thank you, Alica! It’s good to remember we can make a difference, but it’s also difficult with so much hardship.

  6. Pauline Baird Jones January 28, 2013 at 4:15 pm #

    It’s a great start, Kinley! Keep it going with the beauty queen answers! You rocked it!

    • kinleybaker January 28, 2013 at 4:38 pm #

      Thanks, Pauline! I’ll be sure to practice my wave.

  7. cecyrobson (@cecyrobson) January 28, 2013 at 4:47 pm #

    What an awesome post!

  8. Celeste January 28, 2013 at 4:53 pm #

    I feel your anger, and I share your angst. Nice post, Kinley!

    • kinleybaker January 28, 2013 at 5:00 pm #

      I’m glad I’m not alone, Celeste. Thank you! I have lots of optimistic angst. 🙂

  9. Jennifer Fischetto January 28, 2013 at 5:16 pm #

    There’s definitely good with fire power in this world, and you’re part of it. 🙂
    You are doing your part. One day your wish may come true.Until then, know your smiling face makes others smile too. See —> 🙂
    And never apologize for your nails or lack thereof. hehe
    Great post!

    • kinleybaker January 28, 2013 at 5:35 pm #

      Thank you, Jennifer! That’s so nice to say. Happy to inspire smiles! I just forget about my nails. I was going to use my sister-in-law as a hand model, but then I forgot when she came over. My nails aren’t nearly as nice. 🙂

  10. Lynn Kelley January 28, 2013 at 6:36 pm #

    Love this post, Kinley! I, too, long for world peace. Am also too short to be a pageant queen, too old, and have stage fright, but after your warm welcome, I feel comfy enough to chant, “World peace! World peace! Bring it on!”

    • kinleybaker January 28, 2013 at 10:38 pm #

      Thank you, Lynn! I’m so glad. We can make at least a little noise. 🙂

  11. Diana Beebe January 28, 2013 at 8:38 pm #

    Kinley, you are amazing! Great post! Your nails look way better than mine. LOL. I hear Lynn’s chant starting, “World peace! World peace….”

    • kinleybaker January 28, 2013 at 10:40 pm #

      Thanks, Diana! Right back at you. Lol. My nails are strategically placed in that picture. My husband kept trying to guess how many pictures I would take. Haha.

  12. Ryan King January 29, 2013 at 2:23 am #

    Wannabe badass? You burst through the door with guns blazing, woman. You ARE a badass. Congrats on the launch of your new blog. And you’re right, it only takes one voice. It may or may not change the world, but it can inspire others to make that change. Good luck Kinley.

    • kinleybaker January 29, 2013 at 2:27 am #

      Lol! Thank you, Ryan. Best compliment ever. I think small changes can make a big difference sometimes. 🙂

  13. lynettemburrows January 29, 2013 at 11:13 am #

    Kinley, you are so right. It only took one voice in each of history’s major changes to start all kinds of things. One voice can be the pebble that starts the avalanche. And I’d like to point out you’re blogging on WP – maybe time to change what those initials mean? World Peace. World Peace!

    • kinleybaker January 29, 2013 at 2:47 pm #

      Thank you, Lynette! You’re so right. I didn’t even think of what WP could stand for. I think I started over on a good platform. 🙂

  14. Jessica Aspen January 30, 2013 at 12:42 am #

    Hey Kinley! Love your header and it’s a great post. We’ve decided around here to smile at strangers and say “hi!”. Spread the peace and love wherever we can. Maybe, just maybe, that moment will turn someone’s day around and who knows what can happen then. 🙂

    • kinleybaker January 30, 2013 at 1:01 am #

      Hi Jessica! I’m so glad you love the header! Thank you. You have a great perspective. 🙂

  15. jamielynnboothe January 30, 2013 at 12:45 am #

    Hi Kinley I just found you from a link another friend posted about your new book on facebook. I will follow you and read and see what I can learn 🙂 I am a new author and I hope my first book will be out around the end of February.

    • kinleybaker January 30, 2013 at 1:03 am #

      Thanks for visiting, Jamie Lynn! Glad you found the blog. Good luck on your first book! I hope you visit again. 🙂

      • jamielynnboothe January 30, 2013 at 5:33 am #

        You are welcome and thank you for replying. Thank you for the good luck wishes and I do plan on being back 🙂

  16. Christine Ashworth January 30, 2013 at 12:54 am #

    Kinley! So glad you’ve joined the blogging universe. I, too am a total optimist who longs for world peace and cries at celebrity weddings. And I love letting my inner badass romp around in my books. If there’s anything I can do to join with you on this plea for world peace, let me know. HUGE hugs hon!

    • kinleybaker January 30, 2013 at 1:06 am #

      Thanks, Christine! I will totally let you know. I’m so glad we have all those things in common. Especially since your characters are badass and awesome. *hugs* back!

  17. Sophie Greyson January 30, 2013 at 1:00 am #

    Great job, Kinley! At least once each day at the office I say to myself, why can’t we live in peace? It’s crazy to think people want to live in a world of evil and turmoil. I was raised by the golden rule – treat others as you would have them treat you. Why wouldn’t you want to be treated nice and live in peace? I just don’t get it.

    Nevertheless, I LOVE your blog. It totally rocks. I so need to take some pointers from you when I create mine. 🙂

    You’re awesome!

    • kinleybaker January 30, 2013 at 1:35 am #

      Thank you so much, Sophie! I’m still learning, but I hope you find something helpful here. 🙂 I believe in that golden rule. It’s not always easy to stay positive, but I think even just making the effort goes a long way a lot of the time. I really appreciate the comment!

  18. Eden January 30, 2013 at 1:26 am #

    I feel like standing on a table, hands funneled around my lips as I yell “Word! Amen, Sister! Amen!“.

    Or, to put it another way… I loved this post, Kinley. 😀

    • kinleybaker January 30, 2013 at 1:43 am #

      Lol! Thank you, Eden! I’m so glad you agree. 🙂

  19. Karen McFarland January 30, 2013 at 5:55 am #

    Yay Kinley! Loved your post! And I also love your new blog site!

    “But it’s not wrong… to hope for a world that’s equal. A world that’s fair. A world that’s safe.”
    No, it’s not wrong. No, it’s not wrong to hope for a world that’s equal, fair and safe. Keep hoping, because someday we will see it. 🙂

    Congratulations Kinley! Hooray!

    • kinleybaker January 30, 2013 at 2:46 pm #

      Thank you, Karen! So glad you like it. We can hope. 🙂

  20. Melissa Bowersock January 30, 2013 at 2:50 pm #

    Kinley, nice post. I find myself often wishing that money-grubbing, power-wielding, angry and aggressive people could imagine themselves on their death bed, looking back on their lives. What did the money get them? What did the power get them? What did the violence to others get them? In the end, all that matters is how we’ve related to each other, how we’ve helped each other and supported each other. Some think that naive, but it’s the only thing that really matters.

    • kinleybaker January 30, 2013 at 2:59 pm #

      Thank you, Melissa! I agree. It’s so easy to get caught up in the world, but at the end of the day what matters is family and those we care about. All the material possessions don’t matter in the end. Love this comment. Especially because I forget what’s most important sometimes. It’s always good to be reminded. 😀

  21. Imelda Evans January 30, 2013 at 4:20 pm #

    As Ghandi said, you need to be the change you want to see in the world. And believe Margaret Mead, who was in many ways quite cracked, but who said a mouthful when she said ‘Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.’. World peace, here we come, Kinley!

    • kinleybaker January 30, 2013 at 4:26 pm #

      Agreed, Imelda. I always thought Ghandi had it right. It’s so true, too. A group of people formed this world we live in. It’s the only thing that can change it. Thank you for sharing. It’s a humble start, but even the smallest words can be powerful.


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