I met someone in real life and my first thought was, you do not talk in exclamation marks

8 Mar

The other day I met someone in real life and my first thought was, you do not talk in exclamation marks. Then I had to try to make it through the conversation without laughing because I was highly amused.

It’s true.

Every time she talks to me online, she’s like: “Hello!!! How are you?!?!?!”

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE it.

If you are bubbly and nice to me, I will like you. It’s not that difficult.

This is proven by the place I always go to get breakfast. They’ve gotten my order wrong at least five times. So wrong, that they’ve replaced ingredients with things I would never normally eat.

I keep going back. Because they are so nice. They are so excited to see me. They noticed my haircut.

That’s another funny story. She said: “You got a haircut!” I said: “Thank you!” Only later did I realize she never actually complimented me. Awkward.

And yet, I’ll still probably go back.

When someone talks to me online and they’re all, “I can’t wait to meet you!!!”

I’m like: “Me neither!”

This is where my logic fails. I’m completely monotone in real life. It’s fine. I’m okay with it. I can’t always be monotone online. It reads really insincere. And remember, I AM SINCERE. It’s just a very reserved sincere that you might miss if I’m acting socially awkward.


Which conversation makes you happier?

You: Hey, there. How’s it going?

Person: Good. You?

You: I finished my book.

Person: That’s nice.


You: Hey, there. How’s it going?

Person: Good! You?

You: I finished my book.

Person: That’s nice!!!

I dare you to tell me you had happier feelings with the first example. I’ll still claim you’re lying.

That’s the challenge with the internet. We want to be sincere and honest.

When we don’t add a little pep to our step, we come off flat.


How’s everyone doing today?


How’s everyone doing today?!?!?!

I want to party with the second person. Just saying.

That all goes back to me meeting this person for the first time. And my thought being, you don’t speak in exclamation marks!

It’s like I felt betrayed or something.

Are you going to be happy to greet me or not?!

In real life I can act much more exuberant if the person is friendly by nature. It takes away my awkwardness.

Someone greets me: Hello!!!

And there’s a shot I might answer: Hello!

Someone greets me: Hey.

I’ll manage a smile that I recently realized is actually more of a grimace. I saw it in a reflection once. That’s a different post.

Have you ever had your opinion change about someone when you met them online vs. real life or the other way around?

Beautiful view, Kinley Baker, Romance Author, Water, Rainy Window

Thank you for helping me find the other side of the rainy window on Wednesday 🙂

And, have a great day!!!

Kinley Baker (@kinleybaker)


5 Responses to “I met someone in real life and my first thought was, you do not talk in exclamation marks”

  1. Diana Beebe March 8, 2013 at 5:00 pm #

    Someday we are going to meet in person, and you will be able to hear those exclamation points when I say, “Hey!!!!” 🙂

    Those exclamation points are crazy–avoid them like the plague in writing, right? Put them in social media, and they live like there’s no tomorrow. I think they wanted to show that they deserve a place in the universe. Exclamation points, unite! LOL

    • Kinley Baker March 8, 2013 at 6:31 pm #

      LOL. You are so right. Exclamation points in social media balance the universe. I’m looking forward to meeting you!

  2. Joni Hahn March 10, 2013 at 7:53 pm #

    I know there are people out there that don’t like the exclamation points in social media but in person, I AM one of those people that genuinely likes to see 95% of those I talk to and meet. So, using them is part of my nature. Now the other 5%, well, they get some of these #$!@%^^&*:(. J/K! <- exclamation point. 🙂

    I have a real problem talking to people or listening to those that don't change their tone. It's like yeah, its great to meet you… blah, blah, blah. Snore. Tone is important in language – verbal or written. Exclamation points rule!

    • Kinley Baker March 10, 2013 at 10:26 pm #

      I agree tone is important in language. I like using exclamation points a lot. 🙂


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