Archive | April, 2013

Because life is like a chore chart

29 Apr

Some of you might not know this, but I get an A+ at adulthood.

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Also, I’m completely joking. I’d give myself a C-. Maybe.

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The good and bad thing about life is that there are no grades.

This was very disconcerting after I graduated college. I started working for a company and after a while I just looked around and wondered, so how am I doing at this adulthood thing?

No one answered me.

I started thinking about this because I recently made myself a chore chart. That’s right. I’m so horrible at cleaning, that I need a chart to keep track of my house.

I asked my husband if we could get stickers and print out a fancy, laminated poster, but the response I got to that was moving past sarcasm into I’m not dignifying that with a response land.

Basically, life is like a chore chart without the fun stickers. We go through our days this way, planning out what we need to do and checking everything off our lists.

It’s not bad because we get things done. We also forget to pause and just appreciate the simple things.

I want to focus on the simple things and be thankful for the people I have in my life. I get too caught up in the small details and don’t often enough appreciate the larger gifts like my family.

The great thing about a chore chart is that at the end, you get a prize. If you do what you need to do, and check everything off, you get praise and a feeling of self-satisfaction.

In this example, I suppose the prize for all our daily struggles is life. In all its toughness. In all its glory. In all its pain. In all the contradictions that make up something very, very complex.

I can’t always think of the right thing to say when horrible things happen. Sometimes no words seemed strong enough to express my condolences. But I think that’s okay. Thoughtful silence can be okay.

That doesn’t mean that we’re not right there with you. We can’t always relate to every event, but compassion bridges the gap of understanding.

As long as we have compassion, we have hope.

You’re never alone, especially with the way communication travels across the world now. You have a lot of people sending you prayers. You have a lot of people with you in their thoughts.

You have a lot of people forgetting about their chore charts because what they care about more than that is you.

-Kinley Baker

The problem with protesting too much

26 Apr

As some of you know, Wednesday was Admin Day. Many people visited the blog for the first time because they must have Googled the phrase. My husband’s response was that people were trying to figure out if Admin Day was a real thing.

Oh, burn.

Lol. Basically, every year I get excited about Admin Day. And every year I regret bringing it up. Because people say thank you, and they are very nice, but it inevitably ends up awkward (because of me).

This year I walked into work, and there was a plaque above my desk that said: “World’s Greatest Administrative Professional.”

I did not make that sign.

Do you believe me?

Because I really didn’t make it.

But all day I felt the need to assure people that I was not the person who made this sign.

Which of course made people think I made the sign.

Because who goes out of their way to preemptively warn people about a sign they didn’t make unless they made it (unless you’re me)?

I didn’t make it. You all believe me, right?

Honest.

Hello? Did you all run away?

Shucks.

For those of you remaining…

*crickets*

Have a nice weekend.

Also, thank you very much to the person who made the sign (because it wasn’t me). It was very thoughtful and kind! You’re awesome.

The sign = awesome. The way I handled it = awkward.

Who’s surprised?

😉

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It’s sunny around here. Enjoy the day!

-Kinley

Happy Admin Day!

24 Apr

Happy Admin Day!

Today is Administrative Professionals’ Day. There are many definitions, but I think anyone who works as a support staff professional should be celebrated.

Also, I’m completely biased because I’m familiar with admin work. It might be my day job.

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Every Admin’s To-Do List.

What do you think of my picture? I thought it was funny. Don’t worry, on this blog laughter is only encouraged, not required.

I think today is a great day to appreciate everyone who helps us on a day-to-day basis. We all want to say thanks to the people in our lives who work behind the scenes to make things easier. Sometimes we just need a little reminder.

Take today to appreciate your loved ones, and your liked ones.

I enjoy working behind the scenes and making life easier for other people. I think a lot of admins and support staff professionals do.

The only trouble is that not every admin writes posts about Admin Day on their blogs, because they are more modest than I am.

So go thank them. They deserve your praise much more than those of us announcing the day.

IT’S ADMIN DAY!!!

PARTY!!!

Just kidding.

Kind of.

From me, thank you to everyone who works behind the scenes! We see you there. Even if you’d rather we didn’t.

And those of you who are more vocal and demanding, I thank you, as well. You keep us all entertained. 😉

-Kinley

How do we stay creative in a world that’s ruled by laws?

15 Apr
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*insert something about slapping a ruler*

Lately I feel constrained by the construction of our society. On the one hand, advancement allows me to be addicted to my phone. On the other hand, there are so many rules we have to follow, I have a really hard time keeping up with all the quicksand.

With the digital world cracked wide open, we’re all running around the internet waving our hands and screaming, “YAY!!!”

Freedom!

As we should be doing. It’s amazing that we can connect to people we never would have known if now was twenty years ago.

But right now, I’m standing on the edge of a lot of decisions. Each direction I toe the line, I feel like I’m getting slapped back.

We’ve seen the trouble with the internet. Lawsuits are running rampant. I admit that I struggle with fear when I read these frightening articles and posts.

I know we can’t take images that aren’t our own and post them anywhere. I just wish it was easier to tell which images are okay, and which are protected.

I wish it was easier to learn how to publish safely and how to mitigate our risk.

I see so much risk in this business.

I’d love to hear about your resources and suggestions.

I wish it was as simple as flagging something. “Hey, this is free content!”…“Hey, this is NOT free content!”

I’m not a rule breaker by nature and I have no inclination to deviate from my current path. But I wish it was easier to figure out the rules.

Yes, trial-and-error works. But I’m also kind of a perfectionist, so I’d really rather avoid the mistakes before they happen. Unfortunately some things can only be learned the hard way, and I’ve gone through challenges I wouldn’t understand if I hadn’t lived through them.

With some basic things like sharing content, though, there has to be a better way.

I have so many stories to tell, but I fear telling them.

I can’t be alone in this… Or has my paranoia reached new levels of ridiculousness?

Stranger things have happened.

-Kinley Baker

One person, two sides

12 Apr

I took two pictures over the last week, and I keep thinking: I am the picture.

First I took this picture. Yay! Spring! Happy.

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Then I took this picture. Boo. Clouds. Sad face.

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All week I was like: Yay! Be happy.

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All week it was more like: Boo. Sad face.

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But the week is over. It’s Friday!

*crowd cheers*

Enjoy your weekend.

Go be some of this:

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I am spring.

How many of you felt like the happy version this week? How many of you struggled with the sad version?

I have good news for all of you.

It’s Friday! Go party (in the safety of your own home).

-Kinley Baker

He’s such a romantic.

10 Apr

The other day in the car I was telling my husband about how I received a request for my contemporary friends-to-lovers story, and how it was awesome.

His response was his usual that is lame face. Apparently the friends-to-lovers phrasing is not to his liking.

(I will forever call him lover now. Just kidding. I can’t pull that off. I wish.)

I guess I should preface this conversation by saying I have always viewed our relationship in real life as a friends-to-lovers tale. Apparently, I am alone in this assessment.

I said: “Hey, our story is a friends-to-lovers story.”

Of course I must defend this trope, because it’s what brought us together, right?

Wrong.

His response: “More like… enemies to kind of okay to whatever.”

He’s such a romantic. And talk about the next romantic trope to hit the big time. I call dibs!

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A rose my husband did not give me.

Then later I explained I was writing this post, and I was laughing. He wasn’t amused.

I said: “Come on, this is hilarious.”

His response: “I know. I said it.”

Psh.

Such a romantic. And so humble.

The funniest part is that I don’t remember being enemies at all. I’m pretty sure he just thought I was super annoying and hated me for it.

Which is proof that I grow on people! So if you’re unsure about this blog, have no fear. You’ll go through the phases… severely dislikes to kind of indifferent to regular reader.

Buahaha.

This is how annoying people take over the world.

Also, to be fair (since my conscience always insists on this, no matter how inconvenient), here is a post that shows my husband can be romantic. When you realize you’re a thoughtless jerk. He won at Valentine’s Day.

-Kin

Desperation is the downfall of well-intentioned people

8 Apr

This might be naïve (shocker), but I tend to think most people are well-intentioned. I think this is a positive thing for society. When you have well-intentioned people on the planet, things are probably going to be okay.

They aren’t trying to cause trouble. They’re just living their life and moseying along, tipping their cowboy hats to the masses.

But there is a major downfall. I’ve started noticing a pretty distinct pattern.

Desperation is when well-intentioned people falter. Desperation is where it all goes wrong.

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At some point, this flower felt desperate. It’s life, man.

We’ve all been there. I know, I’m calling you all desperate, now you’ll run away. You all probably think I’m so mean to you… I’m just being honest…

Kidding.

Hear me out.

I’m not calling you desperate, per say. I just think sometimes we find ourselves in awkward positions, and the desperation to get out leaks nasty fluids.

Too visceral?

There’s that feeling that makes us do things that we wouldn’t do under normal circumstances. We all have the ability to fall into this dark hole, and the horrible thing is that it can all be documented on the internet.

One stray thought. One thoughtless picture. DOCUMENTED. For all time.

This is why we go promo crazy when we’re trying to sell our books, our gadgets, or our time. We start out levelheaded. We start out smart. We’re calm and rational beings at one with our even-keeled sides.

But as the time goes by… As we’re disillusioned… As the road traveled gets a little bumpy, I’ve found myself getting a little… desperate.

This is where we get down with our bad selves, but not the good bad.

When I think back on my life, desperation has always been my downfall. I’ve found myself in the most damaging situations when I was desperate for something.

Desperate for love, attention, friendship. That curling anxiety in our stomachs is what makes us act out against the best of our intentions.

I wish I had a way to halt those feelings. I wish I had a way to take a deep breath and just STOP.

We need to remember that life doesn’t owe us anything. I need to remember this most of all.

We don’t need to start feeling desperate, because we can come together and remind each other that it’s okay. Things aren’t working out, but that doesn’t mean they won’t in the future.

Things seem desperate, but they’re not. Life can always get worse. How’s that for a pep talk?

Really, though, I wanted to write this post because I thought it was important. Not because I know calling you all desperate will lose all my followers (please don’t run away). But because I get desperate and that’s when I make all my bad decisions.

We can’t allow ourselves to fall down the sink hole in this digital world. Everyone has their cameras aimed and their derision at the ready.

Have you ever found yourself getting a little desperate? Is that when you tend to go beyond the best of your intentions? Or am I a lone, desperate soul?

It’s possible. 😉

Let’s stick together and watch out for those potholes. When we start to panic, talk to a friend and know that we’ve all been there. Not that any of us would ever admit to being… desperate.

We’re all perfect.

*snorts*

-Kin