Archive | May, 2013

Mrs. Fix It

22 May

Most of you know I work as an Administrative Professional because I celebrated Admin Day, and no one really does that unless they’re an admin.

But I also have a superpower that comes in handy for being an admin. I have the ability to accidentally figure things out.

What can I say? It’s a gift.

Also related to this, people don’t find this amusing. One time someone in another department was having a problem and they were obviously frustrated. They asked if I could help, and I said I could probably figure it out accidentally.

They were not amused. I hate when my jokes go over poorly. Lol.

But then I did accidentally figure it out. Don’t ask me how.

I think we’re creating a generation of fixers with our constantly advancing technology. Our brains are learning to click around Word until we figure out Track Changes, or whatever issue we’re facing.

It’s always a little awkward when someone asks me something and I have to say, “Can I go try to figure it out on my computer?”

But everyone wins when things get fixed.

What do you think? Are you a fixer?

This post really got me thinking. I think we undervalue certain skillsets. Do you have a skill that comes in super handy but doesn’t necessarily translate into a career?

I like the idea of a generation of fixers. Let’s teach kids how to problem solve. I think the ability to take something frustrating and solve the issue simply is going to make life a little easier on everyone.

-Kinley Baker


What is dating?

20 May

I have a confession. I’ve never dated. I’ve never been asked out on a date outside the world of high school. I honestly don’t even think I was asked on dates in high school, but maybe I was and someone might happen upon this and call me a liar, so I’m covering my bases.

I’ve never been asked out by a stranger. I hear this happens. Or that people get “hit on”, but the concept is really something I’ve only seen in movies. I hear that being asked out is common. I’ve heard of a lot of people talk about the time that guy hit on them at the bar, or whatever.

Maybe I don’t hang out at the right places. Or there is something about me that throws off major “I’m nuts” vibes. I’m sure my wedding ring doesn’t help things now, but honestly I don’t think anyone has ever thought, “I’m going to ask her out.” And then looked at the ring and thought, “Darn.”

Whatever the reason, it’s just not something I understand, which is fine when I’m living in strange Kinley land, but not fine when I’m trying to write characters who have different experiences than me.

Yesterday I ran into a problem with my new book.

I can’t figure out the dynamics of dating and meeting strangers. I’m completely out of my element, and the whole thing feels awkward to me. So I need your help if you don’t mind.

I’d love to hear about your disaster dates or successful dates. Please help me understand the world of dating. I love hearing about these types of stories.

-Kinley Baker

Going overboard with sailboats

17 May

So I’m still actively pursuing a hobby. Knitting and I broke up. Golf and I struggle to be friends. And my quest to be a magician lasted for about ten minutes (or until I realized I have the opposite of magician skills).

Then I rediscovered origami and it was like the skies opened and heaven music played. This is the perfect hobby for me. I can make things for people, it’s cheap, and I can do it while I’m watching television, which might get me off my computer.

The only problem is that it’s hard. I knew it was going to be hard, but not this hard.

I tried to make a lion yesterday… Not even close.

However, I did make a sailboat, and I found success. It’s not the best thing ever, but I do like to make sailboats. In fact, I made them for everyone.

I went overboard for sailboats. Then I started laughing thinking how funny it was because I was equating sailboats to going overboard.

But then I felt bad for laughing about going overboard because it’s really a serious issue and not funny at all.

And I ended up thinking that Ellen DeGeneres is my hero, which has nothing to do with any of these other thoughts.

Needless-to-say it was an exhausting day.

Here is the ferry from Wednesday:

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Take a moment just to watch the ferry.


Sailboats for everyone!

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And a pig. Because why not?

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Have a great weekend!

-Kinley Baker

Enjoying the moment

15 May

In this fast pace world, I think we all forget to take a step back and relax. We forget to enjoy the moment because we’re so worried about predicting the future.

Last weekend, I went to lunch with my parents. They are hilarious. Mainly because they laugh at my jokes, but also because they understand me.

I always feel comfortable around them. If I say the wrong thing, they know the context.

I often worry about saying the wrong thing in life, and I think in certain cases, this fear can prevent us from saying the right thing.

So many times I’ve said nothing, when I should have said something.

But I argue with myself that it was better to say nothing than to say the wrong thing.

It’s a confusing circle.

I had a lot of deep thoughts that will probably never form themselves into a blog post while I ate lunch and watched the ferry go by.

All I can take away from that fabulous afternoon is the understanding that I took the time to watch the ferry, instead of ride it. These days, we give everything a purpose, we assign everyone their place.

There’s always something to do.

Take a moment to stare up at the sky, watch the water wave, or your loved one smile. Whatever you have to do will still be there in a second, and maybe this will help us all slow down and enjoy the moment.

And this post is picture-less up to this point because the ferry picture won’t load! *cries softly* I’m pretty sure my frustration with technology negates the whole post. Thanks a lot, technology.

Here’s a blue sky to make us all think happy thoughts.

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You’re doing it wrong

13 May

In every committed relationship, there comes that awkward moment when you have to tell your chosen partner they’re doing something wrong. Not just wrong. But like, really, really wrong. Usually, it’s something that builds and builds until the other person can’t handle it anymore.

In my case, it took five years. And the person doing something absolutely wrong is my husband.

I had to tell him. I thought about writing him an open letter, but I was pretty sure he wouldn’t read it, so I just told him to his face.

Now, in most cases, I don’t like to tell people they are doing things wrong. There are lots of different ways to live, and who am I to judge people for their choices?

If another person wants to do nothing for their birthday, that’s fine.

But it’s not fine when it’s my chosen partner.

My husband celebrates birthdays wrong.

I am not okay with this.

It’s not just his birthday, but all birthdays.

He drove me crazy a few days ago when his birthday came around because he didn’t want anything special. He didn’t even want cake.

Basically, I spent the whole day being irritated because I wanted to make the day special, and he didn’t.

I know it’s not my birthday and blah, blah, blah, be mature, blah. But DUDE. I just wanted to celebrate his life.

That was bad enough. But now, my birthday is coming up and he keeps saying things like, “It’s not called a birthweek, it’s called a birthday.”

In my head I’m thinking, everyone knows you get to celebrate your birthday for the week before and the week after the actual day.

Then I realize that everyone probably doesn’t know that. And I’m ridiculous. My expectations for birthdays are too high.

And I’m probably the one who celebrates birthdays wrong!

But it’s the day we are BORN. If that event didn’t happen, we wouldn’t be here, so I think it deserves some celebrating.

In completely unrelated news, I bought an origami kit. So stay tuned for pictures! And I think this will replace the threat of the creepy puppet making.

-Kinley Baker

He has to be doing this on purpose

10 May

My dog totally knows what he’s doing.

Out of all the space in the living room, Joker decided to settle here:

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Every day, I sit in the same position, and Joker knows where I put my computer. So when he sits where my computer goes, I am not amused.

But this position above is even worse. This probably isn’t a clear picture, but he settled his head on my wrist. Then, every time I moved my wrist to type, he growled. That’s right. Growled.

He totally does this on purpose.

Then he finally gets irritated enough and he goes here:

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He goes ten feet across the room, sits in his bed, and stares.

And keeps on staring.

Sometimes, he puts his head down and still stares.

And other times, he turns his back on me, and that’s when I know he’s really angry.

Dogs are a lot smarter than most people think. They have agendas. And you better hope their agenda is not to prevent you from editing, because they will succeed.

Too bad I win in the end. I am almost done editing Endured, despite his interference. 🙂

Have a good weekend!

Kinley Baker

Puzzle failure, but super thoughtful failure

8 May

Like Valentine’s Day this year, I had no budget for my husband’s birthday. So I had to think of something thoughtful to make him for free.

Guess what I made?

Yes, a puzzle. How did you know?

So here’s the deal. Up until now, I haven’t been serious about puzzle making. And by I haven’t been serious, I mean I’ve never Googled how to make them.

But then my husband’s birthday present happened.

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Complete Puzzle Failure

This puzzle fails in so many ways.

I had this strange idea of cutting the pieces at different angles, but it didn’t work. Not only that, but I numbered the pieces and somehow inverted them, so this puzzle will never be put back together. My husband will never see the full, completed design.

When this happened, I just felt like the whole puzzle world was thinking, poser. And I had this irrational need to become legit.

So I Googled puzzle making, which made me feel like more of a poser. Real pro puzzle makers probably don’t search How To Puzzle Make on the internet.

If I’m going to do this right, I have to do it right, right? No Google clues.

Anyway, it was a disaster. Luckily, his family got him amazingly thoughtful gifts, and I think he ended up having a pretty good birthday.

This just goes to show you. Not all puzzles are made to be solved.

Especially when the creator has no idea what they’re doing.

I wanted to end this post with, at least I didn’t have the idea to handcraft puppets. But now I’m going to end it with, maybe, next, I’ll try to make puppets.

-Kinley Baker