I can be a huge thoughtless jerk.
Take Valentine’s Day, for example. My husband and I didn’t spend money on presents. I knew that going in.
Even without a budget, my husband totally rocked out the day.
He was so dang thoughtful. He does this. And he’s sneaky about it! Sometimes I’m so unobservant, I don’t even notice for a while, and then all the nice things he does adds up to a gigantic mountain of awesome.
It’s probably one of the best things about him.
So on Valentine’s Day, he brought home TWO types of dark chocolate (my favorite) and pizza (my favorite). He brought out board games to play (my favorite) AND he put on Harry Potter (do I even have to say my favorite?). The sixth movie! The one with a lot of humor.
Then we started… A PUZZLE (*insert warm and fuzzy memories from childhood*).
I could not have wished for a more perfect day. And what did I do for him?!
I am a thoughtless jerk. There’s nothing worse than being thoughtless.
The next day, I had to fix the situation.
No longer would I be the jerk who doesn’t do anything nice and forgets anniversaries.
I wanted to buy him a present, but that’s breaking the rules. I should be able to be thoughtful and not spend money.
Well, while we were doing the puzzle, he mentioned it would be cool to do a blank/white puzzle.
Perfect! So what did I do?
*Drum roll, please!*
And he called it THOUGHTFUL.
I’m no longer a jerk. *fist pump* At least, I’m not a jerk today.
Men get a bad rap for forgetting anniversaries and birthdays, but really, I think they’re just more subtle about it. We don’t give them enough credit.
I know what I’ll do going forward. Appreciate my life partner and shower him with affection. His response will be to roll his eyes.
Have you ever thought to yourself, I’m a gigantic jerk? I think being able to admit when we fall short is pretty nifty (I really wanted to work nifty into a blog post, AND I DID).
On a completely unrelated note, do you want to know what’s really hard to make from scratch?
I’m sorry. I couldn’t resist. Bad joke. That was a bad joke.
This day is full of win. GO! Frolic off into the sunset. Do something nice for a loved one.
I know I will spend more time thinking about others in the future. I get so caught up in the small things, I forget to show those I love that they mean everything to me.
What are little things you do to show your family you appreciate them?
Kinley Baker (@kinleybaker)